Cinnamon Buns and I went to register the other day. We realise that the wedding isn’t until June, but we get so few days off together, that we had to jump on it. We went to The Bay (founded in 1670!) as Bays are all over Canada, and seem to be the standard in wedding registries here. We chose The Bay because we wanted it to be convenient for all our Canadian friends, and while Calgary just got a Crate & Barrel, there aren’t many around the country, and we have friends who are (hopefully!) coming from all over.
We went in, filled out some paperwork, and were given the scanny gun. Cinnamon Buns had all together too much fun pointing it at me and saying ‘pew pew! lasers!’
Then, we got into the nitty-gritty of registering. That conflicted feeling of “Ooooh, blender…. Mmmm, Kitchen Aid pasta attachment” versus “This is so greedy! Why are we doing this? Our friends are artists!”
We’ve also been living together for 4 years, and when Mr CB and I moved in, my grandpa had just downsized from a 3-bedroom house to living with my parents. Cinnamum saved a lot from grandpa’s house for Cinnamon Buns and I to go through, so we were pretty much set from the moment we moved in. Earlier this year (before getting engaged), I bought myself (possibly with a mutter of ‘if we were getting married, this would be on a registry‘) that holy grail of the kitchen, the Kitchen Aid mixer. We have a crock pot (LOVE. IT.). We have a toaster. Rice cooker, check. Blender…. ok we have one, but it makes funny noises. The only thing we don’t really have is china. I mean, we have plates, bowls, mugs, pasta bowls, but we have 4 of this size and pattern of plate, 6 of this smaller size and different pattern of plate, 4 of these bowls, 2 of those bowls, and 1 of that type…. I’m not going to lie, it’ll make me happy to open our cupboard and see matching things in there.
As we were going around the store, I was getting in to the whole registering thing. Beep beep beep. Mr Cinnamon Buns looked intriegued by a coffee mug with a French press inside it, I said ‘let’s scan it! Beep!’ But he said no, if he wanted it he’d get it himself. He said no to scanning the Corningware dishes that could replace scary plastic Tupperware. I kept thinking why are we here if we’re barely going to scan anything? Eventually I stopped and said “I don’t want to sound greedy, but people are going to want to buy us gifts. It’s a wedding thing. It will happen. Better that they buy things we actually want!”.
Mr. Cinnamon Buns came back with a very good answer, that was he’d rather we fill the registry up with just the china and flatware stuff we want, so we get a good chance at getting a full set – not a few dishes and a bunch of things like coffee mugs and wine stoppers. I’m marrying a smarty-pants! I realised that he was right. No point putting the travel mugs on there – we can get those ourselves if we want to. We have bedding we like, we have good towels, we have appliances that work. What we, as a couple, need (no one really needs the stuff that’s on registries, right? You can eat without matching plates and bowls) want is a set of china. And cutlery that wasn’t $5.99 at Canadian Tire.
So I scaled back my thinking, and Cinnamon Buns opened his up enough to include a couple things that were non-china (blender, spare Kitchen Aid bowl), and I think we got along quite well. Apart from when I had to take the scanny gun away from him because of the ‘pew pew!’ noises. 😉
For all my complaining about our mis-matched china currently, we went with a line that we could mix and match. But this stuff actually coordinates, unlike the stuff currently in our cupboards. The hard part was choosing which patterns to get in which pieces! We went with Denby’s Jet line, with accents of Jet Stripes and Jet Skyline.
Plain Jet big plates and pasta bowls (we went with the black)
Jet Stripes tea plate and cereal bowls.
Jet Skyline mug, Jet glass tumbler
Jet Skyline serving bowl, Jet Stripes serving platter.
(all the above photos are from Denby’s website)
We ended up with a fairly good range of prices, from”group gift” prices (the blender, the serving pieces) to individual gift prices. We know that Denby is pricey (but the Bay does have sales!) so we understand that one person might just get us a plate, or one place setting of cutlery. That’s fine, we’ve done that at other friends’ weddings, when they registered for Denby! Cinnamum-in-Law has encouraged the Irish side of the family to send money rather than gifts apparently, so we can always buy the rest of the set with that.
Did you have a hard time finding the balance of ‘I want stuff’ with ‘This is so greedy!’ when registering? Did you go with fewer items that you really want, or lots of stuff you kinda want?